If your partner has these 8 personality traits, you may be in a toxic relationship

Sometimes it is difficult to know. However, there are some negative personality traits that are warning signs of toxic people.

People with toxic and negative personality traits can lure you in with a false sense of security and then destroy your self-esteem.

In toxic and unhealthy relationships, victims are often convinced that they are the problem, so they end up taking on the negative criticism of a toxic lover.

It can be confusing to be blamed for being the problem or to be told that you have all the problems.

You may be in a relationship with a toxic person, but you may not even be aware of it.

When you love someone, you may miss the warning signs of a toxic relationship.

Toxic partners can be deceptive - on the surface they may appear perfect. But often this is because it is easier to disconnect from what is really going on, to avoid facing what is really happening.

Here are 8 negative personality traits of a toxic person that can signal a toxic relationship.

Do you have a partner who behaves politely, but deep down feels envy and hatred towards you?

They may be secretly competitive or compare themselves to you. Do they feel pain when you are successful or happy?

Many of those who feel dissatisfied with their lives hide the disappointment they feel when others are successful or share good news.

Toxic partners feel inadequate and cover up by smiling, saying nothing or commenting on something negative to minimise their disappointment, to avoid the blow to their self-esteem.

They feel a sense of failure in the face of the success of others and this shows that they have not fulfilled their own expectations.

They think it's unfair that others have done better, it's a competition or a race to be the best.

You cannot rise above them or they will crush you with destructive envy.

They feel misery for your happiness and may try to bring you down in order to elevate themselves.

If you are in a toxic relationship with someone who suffers from narcissistic personality disorder, they may take pleasure in demeaning the success of others, defeating them or making belittling comments in order to elevate themselves above them.

In order not to feel inadequate, they end up criticising others in order to elevate themselves.

They inflate their self-esteem to convince others how good they are.

Feeling superior, they openly disapprove of others.

Toxic people blame others for their mistakes and find ways to cover up their actions so that they are never to blame.

They will find a way to spin the problem so that it is your fault.

They avoid the humiliation of shame-induced judgement, so they distort the truth and avoid taking responsibility in order to cover up their mistakes.

They do this by looking for blame in others, whom they blame for their shortcomings.

They lost their job because their boss felt threatened by them, their ex-partner was the crazy one, they cheated on them because they never gave them sex when they wanted it, they tell them they should get over their problems and not bring them up.

It is always the other person's fault and it is perfect.

They may be falsely convinced that they are always right, but seek admiration when others need them as experts to advise them.

They always know more than anyone else, feeling above the rest. 

When they see others beneath them, they feel special and it takes away the deflating pain of the empty self.

These toxic lovers pretend to be the right Mr/Mrs. to lure you into a relationship, in order to seek admiration supplies, but will discard or devalue you when their needs are not a priority.

They may even spoil your happiness or success, or speak ill of you.

You are simply there to give them something they need, such as approval, money, sex, love, support.

After a date, you may not hear from them unless they need something from you.

They pretend to be interested in you as long as they get something from you.

Sometimes they just want someone to admire them or inflate their ego when it is deflated.

Other times, they withdraw or withdraw to avoid exposure that they are not perfect. Thus, no one discovers who they really are.

They feel good about promoting and focusing on themselves and acquiring others to achieve their goals.

Those with toxic personality traits may lure you with a false sense of confidence and security in order to deceive you.

However, the toxic relationship feels empty and contentless, as the toxic person cannot reveal anything about their true nature or expose themselves.

It will tell people what they want to hear, and imitate what they need to hear, in order to achieve its own goals.

The truth will be revealed when they are unable to be emotionally available to the needs of others.

They have no empathy or remorse for how they treat people, because they feel entitled to behave in a way that satisfies their own needs, without regard for others.

When others do not meet their expectations, they justify deception or affairs.

They present themselves as kind or pretend to be empathetic so that people will give them what they need.

They only want you if you serve a need. Otherwise, your feelings don't matter.

Toxic people project their sense of inadequacy onto others, finding things wrong with others or finding fault with them.

They are delusional and see everyone through their own projections, distorting the way they see and relate to others.

They see others as themselves, the part they hide.

They accuse others of cheating, uselessness, selfishness or fraud.

They will attack or insult you for things that don't represent you because that's how they see you.

Before you get into a relationship, you should know the warning signs of a toxic person.