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7 signs that your ex will eventually come back

It's inevitable that after breaking up with someone you love, there comes a time when you wonder if the relationship is really over or if there's a chance that your ex is pretending to be over you. And if so, may the two of you get back together one day....
Author: Patricia Alegsa
06-05-2021 17:56







  1. But if you miss him or her and want to get back together, here are 7 signs that your ex will eventually come back.
  2. Now that you know if your ex-boyfriend still has feelings for you, the important question is Do you want him back?

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How do you know if your break-up is for good? You don't. At this stage, you can drive yourself crazy looking for good hidden signs that your ex will eventually come back, start spending time with you and ask to be with you again.

When you talk to him, you probably don't know exactly where you stand. The things he does and says leave you more confused than ever.

You need to be 100% clear that he has moved on if you want to be able to move on and get your life back on track.

Unfortunately, men can be very good at sending mixed signals. Some say this is because of the way men and women handle breakups differently, even if they end on good terms. As TODAY Show style editor Bobbie Thomas says, "women break up harder, but men break up for longer".

In the process of getting over an ex after a break-up, a woman often allows herself to feel all her painful emotions, talk to close friends, spend time analysing what happened in the relationship and remember the good times. The process is extremely difficult, but it helps women to gain emotional clarity and to come full circle.

Men, on the other hand, are more likely to bury their feelings and apparently "move on".

For example, men may make a deliberate effort to start dating immediately. Thus, they will put off processing the break-up and the relationship until later. Frankly, your boyfriend may also not know whether he is really ready to move on or not.

According to a study by researchers at Binghamton University and University College London, stereotypes about the differences in the way men and women cope with break-ups are based on some proven truths.

"Women", according to the study, "experience more emotional pain after a break-up, but also recover more fully".

The study involved asking "5,705 participants from 96 countries to rate the emotional and physical pain of a break-up on a scale of one (none) to 10 (unbearable). They found that women tend to be more affected by breakups, reporting higher levels of both physical and emotional pain. Women scored an average of 6.84 in terms of emotional distress, compared to 6.58 for men. In terms of physical pain, women scored an average of 4.21 compared to men's 3.75".

"Although break-ups hit women harder emotionally and physically, they tend to recover more fully and emerge emotionally stronger. Men, on the other hand, never fully recover, they just move on.

Our society teaches women to feel comfortable experiencing and expressing feelings of sadness. A woman is expected to cry, share her heartbreak with friends and even go to therapy to deal with the pain of her broken heart.

Men are taught from childhood to "be men".

A man, even when he is suffering, is expected to appear strong and in control, and to retain his independence without asking for help. This is why men not only take longer to heal from heartbreak, but are also more likely to engage in destructive behaviour along the way.

Does all this mean that your particular ex-boyfriend will eventually come back? Not necessarily.


But if you miss him or her and want to get back together, here are 7 signs that your ex will eventually come back.

1. Already in a new (rebound) relationship.

You've found out that your ex-boyfriend is already in another relationship - how can he move on so quickly?

Experts indicate that rebound relationships are common after break-ups. The aim of a rebound relationship is to fill the void left after a painful break-up.

A relationship brings with it feelings of intimacy, security and familiarity. Many people mourn the loss of these feelings after a break-up and compensate by jumping into a relationship with another person. A rebound relationship is an emotional "band-aid".

As such, your ex can get into a rebound relationship even if he or she is still in love with you. There are a number of pointers to help you figure out if your boyfriend's new relationship is genuine or a rebound.

Has he started dating very quickly after the break-up? If you've only been broken up for a couple of weeks and he's already dating again, chances are it's a rebound and he still likes you.

2. He's dating someone who is your polar opposite.

Experts say that exes sometimes try to overcompensate for the pain of a break-up by finding someone who is nothing like their ex.

If your ex-boyfriend's new girl is nothing like you, it's most likely a great sign that he still likes you, but is trying to use the new girl to get over you.

3. Their activity on social networks is intense.

Is he stalking your social media? If your ex-boyfriend combs your social media feeds by commenting, sharing your posts and liking them, these are signs that he might still have feelings for you.

I wouldn't monitor your social media content otherwise. Kids don't invest their time and energy in things that don't mean much to them.

Do you post an excessive amount of party photos? He feels he has to capture all the "fun" events and is bloating his social media accounts because he hasn't moved on. Your ex is trying to bombard you with photographic evidence that they have "moved on" and are "over you", even though their actions clearly indicate otherwise.

But if your ex has stopped following you and making friends on your social media accounts, it means that he or she is trying to move on and doesn't want you in his or her life following the no contact rule.

Many times, staying connected on social media can be unhealthy because it leaves the doors open to communication and makes it difficult for both exes to find closure. Also, if there is no change in your social media activity, it could indicate that you are handling the break-up in a mature way and are clearly moving on with your life; it's just a matter of time.

4. Hasn't returned your things

You probably exchanged many gifts and objects in the cause of the relationship. Do you still have many belongings from your ex-boyfriend? Has he meddled in every aspect of your life? Is he dragging his feet in tying up loose ends?

If your ex is not completely over you, he will choose not to get his things back so that he has an excuse to come back for them at another time. As long as there are items that belong to him in your house, it is a strong sign that the two of you will always have unfinished business.

He also returned your things and asked you to return his things. If your ex-boyfriend returned all your things, and returned your gifts after the break-up, and collected his things, it is his way of telling you that he is serious about moving on.

If everything has been returned to its rightful owners, it has left no unfinished business and is ready to move on.

5. Stays the same

If you pay attention and notice that your ex-boyfriend is trying new things and having new experiences, you must admit that he is moving on with his life.

Is he learning a new language, is he travelling more, is he going hiking, is he going camping? This clearly tells you that your boyfriend is moving forward. He wants a life that takes him out of his comfort zone and out of his daily routine - what better way to move forward!

Has she cut her hair or dyed it? Does she dress differently? He is deliberately building a new life and you better believe he is moving forward.

6. It is not making progress.

Moving on does not always have to be symbolic. Sometimes people can literally move on after a break-up, especially if the ex-partners worked at the same place or have mutual friends.

If he moves away, it's a big problem. The long distance means he's not planning to get back together because he doesn't see you in his future.

7. Keep in touch.

Are you still texting and calling them like the old days? Does he or she call you to check in and ask you how your day was? This is one of the biggest signs that he or she probably misses you and isn't over you.

But if you've cut off all contact, you don't want to stay in contact at all. It's over. If he avoids going to places where you might be, even places he would normally want to go, he is making an effort so that the two of you have no reason to reconnect.


Now that you know if your ex-boyfriend still has feelings for you, the important question is Do you want him back?

Remember that there is a reason why things didn't work out in the first place. Is it a reason you can both work on, or do you really have to drop everything?

Even if your ex wants you back, this is a crucial time to make the most important decision: Should you make a move to get him or her back or end the relationship once and for all, or is it your fear of rejection that is keeping you from happily ever after?



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