5 reasons why you should always forgive but never forget

1. 1. Learning through mistakes
2. 2. Everything has a reason for being
3. 3. The mind cannot be forced
4. 4. The need to go back in order to move forward
5. 5. Become a greater person through forgiveness

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They say that if you forgive and don't forget, you will live a happier life.

 And to a certain extent, it is true.

When we forgive, the air around us becomes lighter and less stifling.

 It is like thunder that shakes the summer heat so that the skies can cool the earth.

 We feel liberated, free from the overwhelming weight of lies, pain, false words and heavy hearts.

 Personally, I have followed this affirmation as I grew up.

 Often, as a child, I would temporarily dismiss moments of anger with typical children's distractions. I forgave those who took my last cookie at recess or copied my homework without my permission, and even let it pass when they pulled my hair to keep me from turning down the volume on the TV.

 I kept that mindset by instinct, knowing that the best way to move on was to forgive but never completely forget.

 Although I still remember these memories as if they were yesterday, even though they may have been traumatic at the time, they have the uncanny ability to make me feel content.

 They have shaped me and are part of who I am.

Forgiving and not forgetting is the true way to let things go.

 Here I present a list of five reasons to go through life forgiving but never forgetting.

 In the end, we are all imperfect souls, and recognizing those imperfections is what makes life so much more perfect.

1. Learning through mistakes

It is very likely that while growing up you have heard the well-known saying: "You learn from your mistakes".

 This common idea states that when you make a mistake, you take responsibility, face the consequences and finally, learn from it to focus on not making the same mistake again in the future.

 We all make mistakes in life, which is why we are able to grow.

 Traits such as cheating on a science assessment, badmouthing someone behind their back or simply not daring to take on a challenge, which we later regret, should be forgiven after taking the necessary consequences and not completely forgotten.

 Brought back into the depths of our memory, memories present themselves when we need them most, serving as a protective guardian in the shadows to avoid falling into similar negative patterns.

2. Everything has a reason for being

Life has a plan for each of us, even if it is sometimes hard to believe.

 Each day presents us with its challenges, but in the end, when the dust settles and the sun goes to bed, we discover that we have found our way home.

 Even when circumstances seem difficult, it is my firm conviction that everything that happens to us has a reason.

Have you had your heart broken? Maybe it was necessary for you to learn something valuable.

Have you been fired? Maybe it will lead to a better opportunity in the future.

 Each part of the day brings us a little closer to where we need to be, even if sometimes the road is filled with obstacles and darkness seems to creep in.

 However, the water eventually clears and the light doesn't go out.

 So enjoy the bumps in the road, laugh at those hiccups that don't seem to want to leave you alone, and don't be afraid of the unexpected twists and turns that life brings us, even those that make us cry.

One day, when you look back, everything will make sense.

 And the first step to understanding it all is to accept that we can't control everything that happens to us and that sometimes we must simply give up.

3. The mind cannot be forced

The mind is a very powerful organ that retains memories both good and bad, difficult or traumatic.

 Sometimes these memories can haunt us for years and there seems to be no way to escape them.

 For example, an embarrassing moment, such as when you tried to run faster than a treadmill and ended up falling painfully on the carpet, can stick with you forever.

 However, these memories cannot be forced to disappear.

You can't pretend to forget something that mattered so much to you that you have to forgive it.

 Learning to look back with a smile is an important step in accepting these memories and moving on.

 But, if something is worth forgiving, then it is important that it remains a part of your life, and valuable in some way to not leave behind.

4. The need to go back in order to move forward

My fiancé once told me a phrase that helped me overcome my fears of getting back together.

After more than a year of suffering through the breakup of our relationship, I was finally feeling whole again and ready to face the world.

 We both graduated, got jobs in the same city, and overlapped in the same apartment complex.

 Despite treating each other as friends, I was constantly fighting my feelings.

 One night, as he showed me defeated, sitting on the edge of his bed, he said something that struck a chord in my heart, "Sometimes you have to go backward to go forward."

 His words made me reflect on forgiveness, which involves coming to terms with the past in order to move forward in life with a new perspective.

You cannot let go of something until you accept it as part of your essence and finally forgive.

 It is necessary to face fears and learn from past experiences in order to move forward and grow as people.

 Forgiveness is a difficult path, but once achieved, it gives you the opportunity to free yourself emotionally and move on to new challenges and opportunities in life.

5. Become a greater person through forgiveness

Even if you're still in pain, even if it's obvious you're not to blame, taking the initiative to apologize is always admirable.

That's why when someone apologizes to you, don't hesitate... forgive them.

 Forgiving someone is the act of acknowledging that we are all human and make mistakes.

 We all carry regrets and regrets, so why not do yourself and the person at fault a favor by lightening the load a bit? Anger and guilt only affect you.

 Forgiving doesn't mean you are easily persuaded, it means you move on and become a bigger person, now with more wisdom in hand.

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