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1) Show that you are there for her.
2) Be fun and unconventional.
3) Spend time at home with her.
4) Be a gentleman at all times.
5) Have soul-to-soul conversations.
To build a relationship with a Cancer woman, there is a fine balance to be struck between showing your emotional vulnerability and showing your strength.
At first, these two ideas may seem contradictory, but if you don't connect on an emotional level, she will be unable to establish any kind of relationship.
As a Water sign, Cancer is emotionally impulsive, and is one of the most vulnerable of all the Zodiac. As a partner, you will need to understand and accept these shifting tides of emotion.
Being open and direct about your intentions helps to stabilise her: remember that she wants a man who is sincere and reliable. She needs to be loved, adored and cared for, whatever her mood.
Although the temperamental nature of Cancer women can be problematic, over time you will learn to read and anticipate it. One way to reduce it is to simply mirror their moods.
She will feel much better if you are also upset about something that has upset her, as you become an emotional unit together. If you disagree, you will create unwanted conflict which can very quickly sour a date with the Cancer woman.
No tactics or game plan are needed to try to attract this woman. She is receptive to those who are direct and to the point. If you like her, there's no harm in letting her know.
This does not mean that you will receive the same from her, but it will create a space in which she feels comfortable.
Cancer women also tend to be more insecure than average, and think they are never good enough. With this in mind, lots of compliments are never a bad way to go about things.
They are also traditionalists and show signs of shyness. They love a bit of the old-fashioned "sweeping" style, so a man who shows her a good time at the best restaurant in town, sends her meaningful gifts or indulges in a love song or two will quickly bring even the most reserved Cancer out of his shell. He likes a bit of wooing, and it's a great way to get his attention.
Making a Cancer woman believe that you have a traditional approach to love, just like her, is a sure way to attract her.
He is looking for someone who will bring him stability through loyalty and fidelity, and will be quickly discouraged if he suspects you have eyes for other women.
Good looks and smoothness won't impress a Cancer woman very much, as she is much more interested in you and your authenticity. She is looking for a soul mate and is not interested in a one-night stand.
Her naturally reclusive nature means she prefers to curl up on the sofa under a blanket to watch a film, rather than sit in a fancy bar in a fine cocktail dress.
This says a lot about her long-term plans: she is ready to get married and wants her soul mate. If she gets the slightest hint that you are not the one, she will back out and look elsewhere.
He needs to know that you are thinking about his future too, and if you are honest about it, it will be difficult for you to find a better partner for life. Too often you put your partner's needs above your own.
Cancer women are also some of the most sensual lovers you can find, and promise a lifetime of sensual acts and romantic pleasures. You will find it very difficult to walk away from the warm embrace of a Cancer woman.
Safety and security come first for a Cancer woman. She doesn't want to be kept in the dark, so it's best to let her know exactly where you stand and what your intentions are. She won't chase you, and if you continually leave her on the sidelines, she may break up with you altogether. This is her defence mechanism, for fear of being rejected later on.
So, for example, telling her that you love her and then making very little effort over the next week will push her to the point of indifference, and she won't even bother trying to see what's going on with you.
If you get a Cancer woman interested in you, don't be afraid to ask serious or even personal questions. The strong emotional side of her persona can overwhelm them, so tapping into this softer side can help her get closer to you and ultimately fall in love with you.
Creating that safe space is important for her to feel comfortable, but she will be more interested in you to begin with. In particular, she will love your childhood stories along with the ups and downs of your life.
However, stories that are harsh or show a lack of empathy will not be as memorable, nor is she likely to forget them thanks to her quasi-photographic memory.
Cancer women love to laugh, and generally have a great sense of humour. A carefully selected Rom Com movie or tickets to a comedy night will help them come out of their shell.
Nothing describes her better than "home is where the heart is". Her naturally reserved nature means that the confines of her own home are the only place where she can truly relax. It is where she feels most secure with her friends and family, while her maternal outlook means she is the nurturer of her relationships.
As already mentioned, the Cancer woman is a traditionalist. This sometimes clashes with the fast-paced and exciting lifestyle of society.
Still, what he really craves is the simple things. If you're not willing to settle down in this quiet, conventional life, you'll just be wasting his time. But if that's what you're looking for, tell him!
Women of this sign love to collect small decorative pieces for their home. Of course, this is due to their love of being at home and creating as cosy and pleasant an environment as possible.
If you ever find yourself in the home of a Cancerian woman, see if there is any relationship between the dozens of objects she undoubtedly hoards. This creates the perfect gateway for you to start tapping into her emotional side. Ask her questions about some of her possessions, as there is likely to be some kind of fond memory attached to them.
Spending quality time with her can help her create new moments that will stay with her forever, with you at the centre. This is because memories are a vital part of a Cancer woman's life. They spend a lot of time in the past, even if they are very optimistic about the future.
Talking about your own past is a sure way to her heart, and there's a good chance she'll want to spend more time with you.
Mixed signals are not good for a Cancer woman. While being invited to dinner in a traditional sense is much appreciated, she prefers you to be direct and sincere about your intentions from the start.
However, there is a delicate balance, and you must not be too strong or ask too many penetrating questions. Cancer women are protected by their armour, designed to ward off predatory types for their own long-term well-being.
It won't reveal much at first, but if you push it too hard, it will disappear into its shell.
The Cancer woman cannot rush into anything. Her sensitive emotional side prevents her from doing so, for she values patience, even if it takes her a long time.
She expects it from you too, so you must have plenty of practice in the art of perseverance - you'll need it!
Because she is ruled by the Moon, her feelings and moods can change as fast as the tide.
She is easily offended, and the difficulty arises from her introverted nature: she may not always tell you when she is upset about something, and may choose to shut you out. Again, this is due to the need to protect herself and her emotional well-being.
Until he learns to trust you, you will have to be careful. Jokes at her expense are risky: she is more likely to see them as an attack than as a funny gesture. Always be aware of the effect your words can have on her.
If he has the slightest inkling that you are not fully committed, or that you are just there to have a good time, he will not let you in and will more than likely cut all ties with you.
She is looking for a man who will provide for her, someone who will support her emotionally and be a strong father figure to her children.
Being a water sign, Cancer women are some of the calmest and most affectionate women in the zodiac. It is almost impossible to make them angry, and this is even more true if you are someone special to them.
The easiest thing to deal with when it comes to this sign is that they are very consistent and very predictable once you get to know them. On the other hand, they tend to have a "love it or hate it" personality, and they don't have much of a middle ground either.
Their quiet personality means that they need to be looked after, so if you are the type of person who only wants to look out for number one, you may want to think about others if you want to attract a Cancer woman.
She is an idealist and loves to dream about what she wants to be, and often looks at the world through rose-coloured glasses. When things go wrong, she can become a bit pessimistic, but that doesn't stop her from trying again.
With this in mind, he puts every last ounce of effort into what he does, giving nothing less than 100%. This tenacity and determination help you achieve greatness, whether in education, at work or in a relationship.
This also helps her when she wants someone: she will not stop until she gets them. This steely determination makes her a great role model for others, and she is always ready to give the best advice as well.
Criticism does not go down well with Cancer women. If you are a person whom Cancer considers close, you couldn't ask for a better partner, as she will constantly strive to protect you and make you happy.
She can be sociable and cheerful, but sometimes also withdrawn and isolated.
As an open-minded and intuitive sign, the Cancer woman gets along best with like-minded people, as she always wants to try new things.
You will also be guided by your instinct, following your intuition whenever you have to make a decision about your personal life or a relationship. Even if you have the slightest doubt, you will not go ahead.
This is largely due to their vulnerability. Like the crab that characterises this sign, Cancers have a very impenetrable outer shell. This makes them especially difficult to reach. They are quite reluctant to let people in and get to know their softer side.
She is all too familiar with people who use this softness for their own benefit, so she does not let her guard down.
Once she sees that you have embraced her for who she is, the mutual respect and trust she needs will be there, and in return you will find a level of warmth and care that many other signs do not.
Cancer women are naturally very maternal, which makes them brilliant wives and mothers: they are very loving and devoted.
The Cancer woman tends to win the attention of those around her because of her cheerful nature. She likes to be admired in society, but her diplomacy and more difficult traits do not go down so well.
You must remember that there is an inherent shyness in the Cancer woman, and that she is afraid of rejection. That said, you don't have to worry about her spilling any of your secrets, as she is a woman who never compromises her own rules or integrity.
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