I loved a Cancer man and this is what I learnt

When I found myself loving a guy who matched my capacity to love, I knew I had to walk away.

For him, to love someone meant to love them deeply, and for him, that didn't mean for me.

So I left.

I was a Cancer man: moody, sensitive, emotional af, the whole nine yards. With my moon in Cancer (ruler of emotions), I got it. I've always been super in touch with my emotions, as a Cancer. All I ever wanted was to love someone and be loved in return. Caring deeply about other people has always been my thing.

If there is one thing I know to be true of all Cancers, it is that they are so in touch with their emotions.

They cling to the memories of the people who hurt them as tightly as they cling to those people. In this case, it was their ex-girlfriend. After they are heartbroken, it takes them a long time to open up to someone new. Sometimes, when they are sad, they isolate themselves. Let me tell you this: the water signs of love drown in their tears.

When Cancers get hurt, they never really get over it.

Sometimes cancer becomes very clingy and needy because they really care a lot about other people and things. And sometimes, they just use manipulation to get you to stay.

It sounds bad, I know, but the cancer I was involved in kept me around because I was kind. It's a cancer thing, I think, to be kind. When he noticed how I started to distance myself from him, he knew just what to say to pull me back in. He made me feel special, wanted, needed, loved. But the underlying problem between us was that he was still holding on to feelings for his ex.

I loved a Cancer man and learned how hard it was for me to walk away. I saw so much of myself in him. I understood his emotions and his feelings. Yet, I learned how easy it was for him to neglect my feelings. He was selfish in the way he cared.

I invested myself in a four-year relationship with him, but looking back, I see that it was never really a relationship at all. It was just me and my feelings and him and his feelings and that separation was what hurt me. Still, I can forgive. But as a Cancer man, I will never forget.